You seriously don't understand the difference between "I don't mean it when I say it" and a person who could have been bullied their entire life for it and may have had one or several traumatic experiences because of it. If only there was a word for that (it's "privilege)". And I'm not just talking about homophobia. Look at sexual assault/rape stats. Reported and estimated. Ask a woman in your life how many times she is accosted on the streets or feels threatened and then told it's her fault. It's not just a word in a vacuum, it's a constant assault and you're part of it.
I was considering writing a made-up story about this, but I decided it was too sinister.
Say I was called a nerd all throughout my public schooling. Say kids larger and more numerous than I pushed my head into the toilet while chanting NERD NERD NERD. Say I was bullied my ENTIRE public school career because I was a nerd. Shall we then punish people that say the word "nerd" because it brings up horrific memories and traumatises me?
Any noun or adjective can be used as an insult with proper context. Should we then censor all chat that could harm someone's feelings?
Shall we ban people that say "wow you're bad" because videogames are very important to someone and being called bad makes them feel like doo-doo?
Shall we ban people that use curse words because someone was raised in a very strict environment and experiences anxiety and negative emotion upon seeing certain four-letter words?
It's entirely unfair to take administrative action against someone for saying something that could be construed as offensive to a group of people, and refuse to take action for saying something that could be interpreted as offensive to a different group of people.
You don't think maybe more people would've stuck around if they didn't find it to be a hostile or distasteful environment?
And no, I do not think that. This is NOT a hostile or distasteful environment. The only people I've ever seen claim offense to things that are said are
a) people complaining falsely in order to see some blood and get someone banned
b) people complaining about cute puppies and (oddly enough) Negga's name
I have never had access to "i" chat, so I don't know if people have been making complaints in private, but I cannot bring myself to think that there are people that are frightened to speak out over the internet, and I'm a pseudo-science (read; psychology) major. I know a thing or two about anxiety n' shit.