no one cares about 1 vs 1 polestagger, the problem is that the servers are filled with people spamming all sorts of OP spears and pikes with instant thrust animations that hit at point blank, and as soon as you try to do any attack on the front line against an enemy, 5 people with prepared thrusts all attack you at once, one of them will probably connect and polestagger you, then the rest spam their high pierce damage spears into you until you die
boy that's fun