Hop in Nditions TS and don't be shy. I recommend playing with a clan and its members for awhile, make sure you mesh and that there's mutual respect. Skill comes and goes, people are looking to get along and enjoy the game these days. Empires rise and fall and we've all seen enough to reflect on the impermanence of an e-boner.
You don't have to apply to join anybody for them to help you out with specifics, you know? Ask me or anybody about builds, or strategus, old and new versions. The devs are still working on the mod a lot, so you'll still be able to see the game change into something else over time. I'd play in duel server with you guys.
Nditions TS
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