I'm not saying they are not. But do any of them ask their followers to pray 5+ times a day?
All of them. I'm serious. There are specific churches, temples, pastors, gurus, rabbis, elders, etc that do instruct their fellow adherents to pray almost constantly.
I suspect that there are a lot of secular-minded, reasonable people that simply haven't experienced what it's like to live in a community where the majority is deeply religious. It leads to a disbelief in hearing what other people believe, as if they decided that the earth was flat instead of the fact that they belong to the largest group of people when it comes to epistemological conclusions. Of course, you see Islam and think that it's somehow fundamentally different. It is, then again it isn't, unless ideas have stages of growth, and then it's safe to say that Islam is the adolescent who's doing all the things his older brother Christianity and dad Judaism did before him.
The thing about most mainstream religions in developed countries (I assure you Christians commit atrocities in third world countries, just like everyone else) is that dominant forms tend to explain away the parts of their holy text/teachings that a 'western' society doesn't agree with.
This is why most Christians will happily eat bacon and not stone people who have sex out of wedlock.
The problem we face, then, is how do we get more Muslims to do the same thing?
Perhaps it's simply a question of time exposed to such a society without having a cultural bedrock (such as a bubble you create consisting of people from the old country or strong family units) to turn to. Pure speculation here, but maybe having some sort of work program for refugees that forces them to move to smaller towns where there are no people like themselves. That would be a benevolent dictator thing to do, I suppose.
It's sort of what Singapore did, actually, though there are now more migrants than citizens. I don't know how it's worked for them, I haven't checked.