Go and ask both if you want, but not only one side as you prefer
See, that is the very problem I have. There was NO proper asking everyone involved, there was NO proper formulation of questions, there was NO open, proper debate. There was a sham referendum at the point of foreign gun, which you uphold as "good enough". How this oxymoron fits in your head - I have no clue.
There are good reasons NOT to start redrawing borders of countries due to agitated populace CURRENTLY living in a given region of one country or another. This is how wars started in the past, this is how russia with its propaganda started a civil war in east Ukraine and only due to Ukraine's weakness militarily and their unwillingness to start the bloodshed it did not happen in Crimea first.
Giving up Crimea in retrospective only confirmed, that letting the bully have its way only increases its appetite, not satisfy it.
Also - some more good news-making from russia with love:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/monitoring/russian-tv-uses-crash-pictures-in-mass-grave-reportAnd to boot - an interesting lecture about nationalism:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7a6j17VWhBc TLDR thing, that the guy tries to convey is that "Nationalism is constructed and not naturally appearing phenomenon". I'm not entirely sure I buy all of his arguments, but if you do - it would basically mean that there had to be a party to this conflict which constructed the artificial russian nationalism in Crimea, so that this whole annexation BS would pass through "with support", and the only party strong enough to do this was russian state controlled media. One has to recognize this, learn from it and act accordingly.