Martin, you don't get it. This is bigger than me.
Having someone say the word because they can get away with it IS the problem.
This is why I'm doing this, to let the community know what's happening, to educate people to watch their words, to have enough integrity to use other words if they are upset. And I don't want this to be handled privately, I want this to be handled in a public way, an apology, to the community.
You have ruined your own reputation, now use every bit of that self respect you have left to apologize to the community, before you lose that to.