We all agree on that, but there's nothing to be done about it.
So something else must be done to deal with their silent superfast kill with more damage than 90% of any inf. strike + quick getaway advantage.
More damage than 90% of any inf strike? What kind of armour are you wearing?
Lances really aren't that strong unless the rider is going full speed and gets a clean hit on you. 2h swords certainly do as much, as well as a lot of polearms.
Thomek...have you played a solid cav build recently? Playing as a lancer isn't that easy. I know I certainly don't post in threads to do with classes I know bugger all about.