Thanks for the help so far, that link for the launcher is the one I used for updating.
I managed to uninstall warband and reinstall it (it was glitching still so I needed to restart for it to work) afterwards I went to update it and it did the same thing.
It still shows 4.5.4 version on the menu screen in cRPG, and I can find some servers NA1-3 but they are all empty. Are they normally empty at around 7pm EST weekdays?