At what age did you become you?

[Tibe]

Well im 22. I changed a fuckton in 3 years. From one of those socially akward asshole computernerd teentypes with bad hyigene who have absolutely no passion for anything in life and live of off their parents money with no shame at all, to a legitimately decent young adult. I kinda like my new self. Looking forward to seeing what il be in 25.

[Falka]

Well im 22. I changed a fuckton in 3 years. From one of those socially akward asshole
 to a legitimately decent young adult. I kinda like my new self.

Adult life and changing life priorities definitely caught up with me now at age 21 Really glad about that, 

Great minds think alike

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and so do a lot of really stupid ones.

[Leshma]

22, 21 years old, decent young person who like to socialize with people...

Well I don't fucking like to socialize with people and I'm 29. Why the fuck not? Because I work with people and people at work are fucking hyenas. They wait every opportunity to fuck you up and put themselves in front of you.

Of course there are people you call friends that won't do such a thing and of course I have them and like to hang around with them. But I would never call myself as a person who likes to socialize with people because to me that sounds like I dig most of the people I'm in contact with. I fucking don't, most are assholes to me (or anyone else for that matter). That is how life works, you have handful of friends, bunch of fake friends which are the same as your enemies. Most people will act negatively towards you and you'll want to strangle them in your mind

Wait for ten years to find a proper job where not everything smells like daisy, where your boss is an asshole (every boss is an asshole if you let him/her) and then say how you are enjoying not being socially awkward. Believe at that time you'll wish to go back to young age when you that strange kid and only thing that will change your mind will be your newly founded family (if you have any by that time).

But to tell you frankly, out of all people you internet avatars are by far the worst. Because you have no social brake of any sort and tend to be more rude than any asshole irl you'll encounter will ever be. World where we are 99% of the time communicating online without some changes (consequences for online actions) will be personification of Hell.

[[ptx]]

And it's that time of the year again.

We are more rude online than we would be IRL, because IRL we wouldn't be communicating with you, Leshma 

[Paul]

People's personalities change over the years. His does within minutes.

[Leshma]

Just writing what first comes on my mind, without previous check what it looks like. This is a great way to vent out some everyday frustration, these forums. Guess I'm not the only one who uses this place with same purpose. Heskey seems doing the same.

I don't really mean anything I've written in my 10000 posts.

We are more rude online than we would be IRL, because IRL we wouldn't be communicating with you, Leshma

Neither I would with you, hate skinny hipster fuckers. Especially if they come from Baltic states

[Xant]

But to tell you frankly, out of all people you internet avatars are by far the worst. Because you have no social brake of any sort and tend to be more rude than any asshole irl you'll encounter will ever be. World where we are 99% of the time communicating online without some changes (consequences for online actions) will be personification of Hell.

Whatever do you mean, dear? I'm a great guy, everyone says so.

[Tibe]

Well I don't fucking like to socialize with people and I'm 29. Why the fuck not? Because I work with people and people at work are fucking hyenas. They wait every opportunity to fuck you up and put themselves in front of you.

The general rule of thumb is that when you think everyone around you are cunts, it either means you stick around in a crowd that's overall bad, or you are the cynical cunt yourself.

[Jeade]

Always late to these.

I'd say I became myself somewhere around age 15 or 16. I went through a pretty rough patch at the time, particularly being excommunicated from the Presbyterian church (who even knew they still did that?).
It's not a fun time, as the whole grounds of excommunication means that literally everyone in that church community completely cuts ties with you.
Growing up in a small town, that meant essentially everyone I knew. Parents are (of course) exempt from the rules of excommunication, but having only your parents is really shitty when they're the prime reason you've been excommunicated.

I was still largely identifying with pacifism at the time, and that's since changed.
I assume that, since growing up, I've realized there's a lot of totally fucking retarded people in the world and pacifism isn't always an option.
It was making a change from idealism to realism. I'm still all for de-escalation, but that doesn't always work either.
The rest of me is still a filthy liberal.

[Xant]

Why did you get excommunicated? I thought that only happened in Medieval 2 Total War.

[Grumpy_Nic]

Still havent managed to be completely me. Still working on myself

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or should be, too lazy atm

[Leshma]

The general rule of thumb is that when you think everyone around you are cunts, it either means you stick around in a crowd that's overall bad, or you are the cynical cunt yourself.

What you do for a living if I may know?

Doing IT freelance stuff is great, working in huge vertical organization is not. Too many busybodies who are waiting an opportunity to climb over your back. Constant gossiping, clan structures, malicious people...

At least it is a state job, could be a bank... my relatives work there, it is particularly cruel place.

[The_Bloody_Nine]

I don't think I will ever become me. But it definitely takes increasingly more years to think of myself as an idiot in retrospective.

[Jeade]

Why did you get excommunicated? I thought that only happened in Medieval 2 Total War.

heh. I was open about the fact that I had serious doubts if there were a God or Jesus or whatever.
I'd grown up in a very fundamentalist Christian home, and the church community was very much the same.
One girl was excommunicated after she admitted to having premarital sex once. She felt terrible about it, came out to say that it happened, and was then excommunicated.
They actually took her up in front of the whole congregation and made her tell everyone what she did. That caused a split in the church.
A few years later, I was excommunicated for questioning my faith. Quite a strange thing to do when Christianity is supposed to be all about inclusion.

[Kalam]

Five seconds ago?

By The Bloody Nine's metric, I suppose it's about a year and a half ago.

I was raised in a similar environment, Jeade. It's taken a decade to be able to talk to strong religious believers without dismissing them outright, except when it's directly pertinent. That's a change, like others that happen every day. I don't know if there is an age where I became 'me', and I'm on the wrong side of 25. Like you, I've moved away from pacifism to something less pacifist. Besides social issues, I'm more concerned with implementation of ideas rather than the ideas themselves.

The best way to judge this is to figure out if a passive watcher with access to every detail of your life would be able to accurately predict who you might be in five years with consistency. That's impossible, so the next best (still horrible) thing is to try and imagine if I could've seen who I would become at any given point, and what I would be most surprised with.

There are times when you get to see people who you once knew you well but haven't interacted with in awhile, and that seems like another decent gauge. You've all mentioned online records of past interactions, and admittedly those are usually the most surprising, since it's often unequivocal proof of an entirely different thought process.

Few elements have accompanied me throughout my life, besides a fierce anti-authoritarian streak, a disregard for tradition, and restless curiosity. And the first two didn't manifest until I was, oh, probably about ten.

However, if I am the same person next year as I am today, there's something wrong. You see, I'm not quite smart enough to have it all figured out. I hope I look back and see an idiot, because if I do not, then chances are...I'm an idiot.