1) use a lot of athletics as archer, crossbow, horse archer, thrower etc, if an enemy comes close, just run
2)become a shielder with 5-6-7 shield skill (still shield or another heavy), just hold it till your enemy is not tired to hit and run backwards, then attack with some weapons like , try to learn to spam
3) dont use your current build
4) use plate armors and go for 33/6, swing your sword right and left killing every one, as a newcomer you can try to find some sponsors help
Pretty bad advice all around.
So you are using a spear with a shield then I gather? It's a very viable playstyle, but fairly tricky when you don't have teammates to support you. Classes that are much more versatile and usable in any scenario are 1h shield and polearm without shield. You might want to try some of those to get a taste of non support class combat. A solid starter build would be 21/18 for both, though perhaps 18/18 as a shielder to get more shield skill and IF. These numbers mean the Strength and Agi values which you should have at level 30.
If you decide to stick with polearm + shield you should probably also go for 21/18 or 18/18. I would recommend using the war spear, it is versatile and quite easy to use. Start your attack on the side of your target and drag it into him, to prevent glancing when he is quite close to you. Also, make sure you click attack very quickly after you blocked, otherwise you leave room for opponents to spam you. Oh and for the sucking right now, you are low level, your stats are quite bad. Just build towards a 15/15 build for now and once you have that you can probably somewhat compete and start getting a kill here and there.
Whatever class you end up with, I do recommend biting the bullet and to start practicing manual blocking. Best way to do this is to launch Native, and go to the tutorial. Somewhere in the area are bots called Novice or Veteran trainers. Put combat speed to slowest in options and do sparring practice with them. Try to block their attacks. If you get 10 succesful blocks in a row, put up the combat speed. This is the quickest way to develop some basic muscle memory for defending yourself and it will greatly increase your success and fun at the game. You should train at least up unto normal, but going to faster and maybe fastest eventually will just make you a quicker and better blocker. As you start blocking better, try to practice it while moving around as well. If you start having trouble again, but the speed down.
Oh and for gear you should probably stick to about 30k total gear cost, if you have about 30k as a buffer for rough times, this should ensure you make some money in the long run.