Okay so the guy i just invaded who took a shit ton of hits answered me, he was SL150 so guess thats fine not SM to blame. BUT he had 2.4k hp, maxing out vig is apparently stronk. So i respecced and went from 1.4k to 2k hp, s'good.
Also 2handing now, the dual wield animations suck ass with curved swords, it doesnt track at all.