Do some gardening. Seriously...I've never known anything as therapeutic as pruning roses, listening to chilled out music in the nice sunshine. Heck even if it's mowing the lawn, cutting hedges whatever, as long as the weathers nice and you're outside it makes a big arse difference. I read a while ago that people who do physical labour outside, largely farm hands ect are supposed to be some of the happiest. Certainly when compared to people who work in the city ect. I can definitely understand that after working on garden maintenance for a couple of months. It's hard work but makes you feel pretty good.
I've lived the barely seeing daylight student life for 3 years and was itching to get to a steady sleeping pattern/work pattern. A steady sleeping schedule I've found also makes a big difference. Try and avoid to many late nights, if you can't get to sleep read a book or drink some herbal tea. Heck I've gotten through tons of books just by reading before I sleep every night. It's become so habitual that as soon as I start reading it triggers me to sleep. Though it has the bad effect of I struggle to sleep if I don't have a book to read.
And btw Christo, I managed to not smoke for nearly 5 weeks, but now I am back to it. Fuck this, fuck this, fuck this. I don´t know what happened. My girlfriend hates that I smoke and I guess I managed to stop it for that (quite long) period because of her, but now meh. Start all over again I guess.
Ah know the feeling. I managed to stop for 3 months and then dissertations + work load piled up in my final term of uni and I started again. My girlfriend hates that I smoke to which was a major factor for me trying to quit in the first place. I think it's one of those things where you really have to do it when the time is right for you though. As in stopping in my final year of uni just did not work cause of stress loads.
Anyway yeah girls mess up any happiness equation. If you don't have one atm, it's best not to think about it to much, if you stumble across a great girl who is worth a shot then by all means go for it. But there's no point seeking it to much because it only leads to unhapiness. That said I've had a string of long term relationships (relative terms) since I was 14. I've only gone a max of 3 months without a girlfriend since then but I can't say that was a good thing. I broke up with my 'highschool' (sixth form technically here) girlfriend 3 weeks before going to uni and within 1 week had met my current girlfriend who I've been with for 3 years now and am going to marry hopefully next year and I've never been happier. But it is so down to chance and random events and is one of those things that you can't really control that it's best to focus on other stuff when pulling yourself out of a hole.
Others around me get everything so easily, let it be relationships or other stuff.
I am the only one with the burden of bad luck it seems, if there is reincarnation, I must've been a very bad mofo in my last life to get all this shit, haha.
PS: Actually, I got over the whole thing in like.. 2 hours of analyzing the situation, and deep thinking.
It's just irritating when I look around, and everybody has it so easy
One of my exes once said this to me when she saw how things were going right in my life whilst she was still struggling with guys being dicks to her ect. She couldn't understand how I had it so easy. All I can say is it's probably my attitude. I tend to just say fuck it and move on. Once upon a time I used to be bullied a fair amount and there came a day when I made a concious decision to just ignore it and move on. I think that now influences how I deal with many things in life. It's not always the best approach but it does mean I avoid getting hung up on things to much and make an effort to make my life better. There's also the fact that this is life. I may have it easy now but there's nothing to say in a few years, decades, whatever, I'm not going to have a hellish time of it for whatever reason.
And that is why I like this:
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