Denial, and the ability to compartmentalize an extreme injustice, based on a personal want of a justified history and limited information, rather than the ability to question and admit fallibility, is what scares the rest of the world about your culture, and why the EU doesnt want an association.
The only reason there was ANY question in the western world, was because of Turkey's strategic position, and relative secularism compared to the rest of the Muslim world, and what that meant to international in-the-moment diplomacy
Call it whatever you want, but the term denial says alot about ones ability to dismiss, repeat, and wash ones hands of the massacre of millions.
and by the way, I'm american, I'm of euro background, and i'm the first one that will tell you, that yes, The native americans in North and south america, were victims of genocide. Anyone saying differently, isnt comfortable with the idea of bieng an occupier, or comfortable enough to live with their forefathers actual history, without romanticising it into acceptability.
The fact that you pointed that out, and then denied the Armenian genocide, is self-serving in rewriting your perception of your ancestors the way YOU would have liked it to be thus affecting your perception of self.
The same arguements you made about the Armenians, I could make about the Native Americans, and the perpetuation of the United States, Spain, and Mexico, but that would be ludicrous.
your statement of 'this is the hard things you have to do to rule an Empire', just shows that the 'Empire' should have never existed in the first place. PEOPLE are more important, than any classist empire.
I sincerely hope you dont turn away from my statement as an insult, like i said, I acknowledge the sins of my forfathers, the world is waiting for you to acknowledge the sins of yours...\
Humans, West and EAST, have a history of bieng dirty selfish little bastards. Admit it, and find value in the idea, that YOU will be better than that.
Trust me you'll feel better, and you'll be right. Romantic national identity, is a very dangerous repetition that often results in continued injustice.