defending fiefs isn't fun because a) you always lose b) the villages usually buy shitty gear (let me tell you how much i love shortened spears and weaboo armor) c) archery is currently mad op so the attackers always bring lots d) archers aren't fun to play against
This isn't entirely true and you are a big baby.
Right now the attackers usually just try to win with superior numbers and archers.
Villages have won even when 900 vs 500. The equipment is shit, but so is the attacker's equipment, and you are defending inside a village and the village buys siege shields, turtle up and wait for them to attack you, don't go running out into the open. But this usually never happens because of the low quality of unorganized defenders.
The fief defense thing wasn't political until there became no reason other than to dick someone over, for you to sign up. When XP was given out en masse "nah bro just doin it for xp", when cRPG gold was given out "nah bro just doing it for the golds." Now the only excuse is "nah bro just doin' it cuz it is fun", which is a legitimate excuse but most people will see it as you having "fun" at their expense.
Incgonito mode is a nice suggestion, but then everyone will also want incognito mode for regular battles (to hide their shameful displays).