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Title: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Christo on August 27, 2012, 11:47:58 am

I know this sounds pathetic, but anyone can have these moments.
 I feel like an emotional wreck, failing at everything, never able to reach happiness or anything that would change my life for the better..

And not because you aren't trying, it's the worst when you are even trying to make everything to be better, and just nothing, nothing works out as how it should be, like with anyone else around you.

FML, seriously.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: [ptx] on August 27, 2012, 12:22:06 pm

You have higher renown than me :(

Also, try changing your environment. Try living somewhere else, for example.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Vibe on August 27, 2012, 12:36:00 pm

there's always alcohol

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Mala on August 27, 2012, 12:38:52 pm

or chocolate

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Christo on August 27, 2012, 12:41:52 pm

Quote from: Vibe on August 27, 2012, 12:36:00 pm

there's always alcohol

Been there, done that.

Alcohol helps less and less during the years. I'm not having the same "world is lighter and everything is great" feeling, unless I drink ridiculously huge amounts, like.. outdrinking my friends with about 3-4x more booze, and still up without a problem.

That ain't no good on the long run.

Quote from: [ptx] on August 27, 2012, 12:22:06 pm

Also, try changing your environment. Try living somewhere else, for example.

Wish I could just do that. Sadly, I can't. Would be intersting though.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Grumpy_Nic on August 27, 2012, 12:54:48 pm

Try gaming less. That you post this in a online community forum should make you aware that you spend too much time with this, and sitting in front of the computer all the time is killing morale, I've had the same and drastically reduced the time I'm looking into a monitor, never thought I could be happy ini my life again.
But now I'm happy again and life is good. And I'm awesome irl... fucking awesome to be honest, there is nothing that can stop me  8-)
I suck at computer games pretty much but apart from that, I'm best at everything.

Try scuba diving, underwater is the place to be. So silent and so nice, always cheers me up when I'm down below

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Vibe on August 27, 2012, 01:08:32 pm

Quote from: Christo on August 27, 2012, 12:41:52 pm

Been there, done that.

Then get a woman. Shit, man the fuck up, stop feeling sorry for yourself and go do something about it. Try harder.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Son Of Odin on August 27, 2012, 01:17:18 pm

I listen to Down when I feel down. Or something like Sentenced, Seether etc.. I'm not really sure if it helps or just drags me further down. Kinda depends on the day I guess. If I feel absolute crap, music atleast numbs it all down to a tolerable level so it helps in any case. Christo try to keep your head up buddy, it's only life :)

Here have a try:

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Leshma on August 27, 2012, 01:34:01 pm

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PS. Melancholy is my natural state.

Fight it with humour :wink:

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Christo on August 27, 2012, 02:01:01 pm

Quote from: Vibe on August 27, 2012, 01:08:32 pm

Then get a woman. Shit, man the fuck up, stop feeling sorry for yourself and go do something about it. Try harder.

Has a part in why I created the thread.

It's really disheartening when you're trying your best, and you are a gentleman by nature, building up the bricks that shall lead to a stable relationship, and during a pub party you find her in some unknown douchebag's mouth, while you're being ignored.

I've yet to investigate if this is for 100% but I couldn't really care now. Feeling Betrayed sucks really.

It sucks, because I have memories of songs and activities we did, stuff like that. Usually I'm not "emotional" at all, but this hit like the iceberg hit the Titanic. Not the first time I experience such a thing, usually I don't really care. Now you could say that the string just snapped inside there, and I'm somewhat broken.

Others around me get everything so easily, let it be relationships or other stuff.
I am the only one with the burden of bad luck it seems, if there is reincarnation, I must've been a very bad mofo in my last life to get all this shit, haha.

Quote from: Leshma on August 27, 2012, 01:34:01 pm

PS. Melancholy is my natural state.

Fight it with humour :wink:

Yeah, Humour helps I find, I'm like addicted to comedy and stuff at the moment, also a good sprint helps to cool off for some time, although not for very long.

PS: Actually, I got over the whole thing in like.. 2 hours of analyzing the situation, and deep thinking.
 It's just irritating when I look around, and everybody has it so easy.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Grumpy_Nic on August 27, 2012, 02:15:27 pm

Nothing is easy. There is a simple formula for life which I use and that works in many situations:

Change or accept

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Berserkadin on August 27, 2012, 05:05:51 pm

It gets better, eventually you will get over it and grow as a person. Enjoy some good, emotional music like Coldplay or Sigur Rós.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqHVCFFpCfc (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqHVCFFpCfc)

Cant seem to emb the video but its totally awesome, cracks me open like dynamite.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Son Of Odin on August 27, 2012, 05:20:19 pm

Quote from: Christo on August 27, 2012, 02:01:01 pm

Has a part in why I created the thread.

It's really disheartening when you're trying your best, and you are a gentleman by nature, building up the bricks that shall lead to a stable relationship, and during a pub party you find her in some unknown douchebag's mouth, while you're being ignored.

I've yet to investigate if this is for 100% but I couldn't really care now. Feeling Betrayed sucks really.

It sucks, because I have memories of songs and activities we did, stuff like that. Usually I'm not "emotional" at all, but this hit like the iceberg hit the Titanic. Not the first time I experience such a thing, usually I don't really care. Now you could say that the string just snapped inside there, and I'm somewhat broken.

Others around me get everything so easily, let it be relationships or other stuff.
I am the only one with the burden of bad luck it seems, if there is reincarnation, I must've been a very bad mofo in my last life to get all this shit, haha.

Yeah, Humour helps I find, I'm like addicted to comedy and stuff at the moment, also a good sprint helps to cool off for some time, although not for very long.

PS: Actually, I got over the whole thing in like.. 2 hours of analyzing the situation, and deep thinking.
 It's just irritating when I look around, and everybody has it so easy.

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Remember its down the road, not across the street kids :wink:

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Tibe on August 27, 2012, 07:02:05 pm

I cant even tell if you trolling or serius....

If you trolling than.......nice job good sir, you got me.

If you not, than.......try doing something unusual to your average day and remember that failing at everything is impossible, even if you Mr. Bean. I rarely feel like a emotional wreck althou in real life im a freaking disaster with nothing proper to show. But I quess, in my case....ive kinda killed most of my feelings and emotions overtime, which kinda made me almost immune to depression. Its acctually true about me. :?

PS: DID SOMEONE HERE MENTION QUIT GAMING??? Do not fcking do that. Its proven if anything gaming helps you relax or blow off some steam. Beating people up ingame will help you avoid doing it in real life. Its proven, dont argue(thou there are always some exeptions to everything in life).

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Corwin on August 27, 2012, 07:10:06 pm

Man up, as someone said, this is probably not the last time someone betrays you, people do that to each other all the time, often when least expected.

In future, try being more a of man, less gentleman. Women seldom cheat on men, and very often on their cuddle bitches.

And remember the greatest wisdom of them all: THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Christo on August 28, 2012, 06:30:33 am

Well I am used to being betrayed, or stuff like this, but this however, hit me quite hard for some reason.

Also no, wasn't trolling. It's for real, I still feel a bit let down but it's better already. Cheers for sharing your opinions

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Taser on August 28, 2012, 11:53:16 am

What hobbies do you have? Do something that releases frustrations or makes you feel better about yourself.

Physical stuff is always good at venting. Running, rock climbing, etc. Reading books or writing works as well. Whatever fits for you.

I will also agree with the guy who said be less of a gentleman. Don't have to be an ass but letting a woman know you won't be at her beck and call simply because she's a woman will let her know you value yourself and your time.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Grumpy_Nic on August 28, 2012, 12:51:20 pm

Yeah.. women prefer assholes often. Dont be too nice, you'll be stuck in the friend zone forever cuz them women dont wanna "ruin" the friendship with sex. :shock:

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Son Of Odin on August 28, 2012, 11:00:58 pm

Quote from: Grumpy_Nic on August 28, 2012, 12:51:20 pm

cuz them women dont wanna "ruin" the friendship with sex. :shock:

That's the biggest mystery... How can you ruin anything with sexings?! Y U THINK LIKE THAT WIMMENS?! (ノಠ益ಠ)ノ

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Swaggart on August 28, 2012, 11:01:43 pm

Quote from: Christo on August 27, 2012, 02:01:01 pm

It sucks, because I have memories of songs and activities we did, stuff like that. Usually I'm not "emotional" at all, but this hit like the iceberg hit the Titanic. Not the first time I experience such a thing, usually I don't really care. Now you could say that the string just snapped inside there, and I'm somewhat broken.

You my friend have found a woman that likes the bad guy type. Those typically respond to douchebags because they very likely have daddy issues and are naturally attracted to men that tell them what to do because of the void their father left.

So, either treat her like the bitch that she is, or simply look deeper.

Also, take up a martial art. One of the best ways to better yourself, both physically and mentally.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Havoco on August 28, 2012, 11:15:01 pm

We need ur daily NA drama thread post Christo.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Tomas_of_Miles on August 28, 2012, 11:27:01 pm

Things always pick up. Listen to some cathartic music and get it out your system.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wtvjy3EiVCM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbWBRnDK_AE
But also if the problem is girls (or A girl) my personal advice would be to continue with the rest of life, keep your social life with mates active in some way.
Sometimes stuff has a way of happening when you least expect it.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: wayyyyyne on August 28, 2012, 11:34:03 pm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gO7uemm6Yo (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gO7uemm6Yo)

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: isatis on August 29, 2012, 12:36:46 am

if I could go to hungary and find you you would get a bro cheer up!
for little as it may seem lemme tell you sometime :
you are an interesting guy with lot of quality, women are... I can't talk about women, I'm gay so apart saying they always have BUNCH of problem to tell me, I can't help!
 just know that they are special people...
I'll tell you the advice of renowed psychanalist author : Henri Laborit

Flee from the situation as figthing it won't change a thing!

you can flee from the conflictual situation by many way : the simplest way is a physical change, new country or just new house... but that's may be impossible
the other more complex way is a psychological fleeing, you can do this by going into your mind! you do that by Art! play chess, read, WRITE a text, a poem, a book or a song! draw, sculpt! take 1 hour by week and 50$ and go take a class in something you love! learn to meditate! or to do a new martial art!

think about it in a forest, taking picture, you'll feel better!

or even more awesome way to feel better : go outside when it's raining and start running and laughing.. wow it's so awesome (ok people will think you are crazy... but i'm crazy and I have a very good life! just strange on side...)

but most important : find your real friend!

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Thomek on August 29, 2012, 02:41:49 am

Girls come automatically when you don't want them or give a single fuck. So try to really do that. Not giving a single fuck. Learn to reject and say no. All the times I've kicked girls out my place they have come back. Most of the the time I was piss-scared that they wouldn't. :D   But they did, luckily.

Also, best stuff has been mentioned. Move yourself. Changing your student house, whatever. Really whatever. Just try to physically move location.

Also, martial arts is great. It's fun and training at the same time! Keeps you healthy without the health and training focus. Quick progression and lots of stuff to learn, both philosophy and techniques.

So before you noticed what happened, you will feel much better, you won't miss a girl, and then you will get one or more.. :D  And try to cut down on late night playing!! cRPG is activating and you won't feel tired until way too late, and then, suddenly you ruined the next day..

A psychiatrist is also a great idea.. You might not feel that you need it urgently, but it can save you the years you might have needed to figure out the same on your own. Most people would benefit from trying it at least. No shame at all in that.

Good luck!

PS: Life get's better as you learn to live! give it time, but try to keep moving forward!

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Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Bjord on August 29, 2012, 03:07:19 am

Wise words, Thomek.

Personally, I recently started Boxing, very tough and my arms hurt so much I can barely play cRPG(still you try...) but it feels great. I feel like I am gonna get some more muscles from that session lol.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Overdriven on August 29, 2012, 10:18:38 pm

Do some gardening. Seriously...I've never known anything as therapeutic as pruning roses, listening to chilled out music in the nice sunshine. Heck even if it's mowing the lawn, cutting hedges whatever, as long as the weathers nice and you're outside it makes a big arse difference. I read a while ago that people who do physical labour outside, largely farm hands ect are supposed to be some of the happiest. Certainly when compared to people who work in the city ect. I can definitely understand that after working on garden maintenance for a couple of months. It's hard work but makes you feel pretty good.

I've lived the barely seeing daylight student life for 3 years and was itching to get to a steady sleeping pattern/work pattern. A steady sleeping schedule I've found also makes a big difference. Try and avoid to many late nights, if you can't get to sleep read a book or drink some herbal tea. Heck I've gotten through tons of books just by reading before I sleep every night. It's become so habitual that as soon as I start reading it triggers me to sleep. Though it has the bad effect of I struggle to sleep if I don't have a book to read.

Quote from: WarLord on August 29, 2012, 12:04:25 am

And btw Christo, I managed to not smoke for nearly 5 weeks, but now I am back to it. Fuck this, fuck this, fuck this. I don´t know what happened. My girlfriend hates that I smoke and I guess I managed to stop it for that (quite long) period because of her, but now meh. Start all over again I guess.

Ah know the feeling. I managed to stop for 3 months and then dissertations + work load piled up in my final term of uni and I started again. My girlfriend hates that I smoke to which was a major factor for me trying to quit in the first place. I think it's one of those things where you really have to do it when the time is right for you though. As in stopping in my final year of uni just did not work cause of stress loads.

Anyway yeah girls mess up any happiness equation. If you don't have one atm, it's best not to think about it to much, if you stumble across a great girl who is worth a shot then by all means go for it. But there's no point seeking it to much because it only leads to unhapiness. That said I've had a string of long term relationships (relative terms) since I was 14. I've only gone a max of 3 months without a girlfriend since then but I can't say that was a good thing. I broke up with my 'highschool'  (sixth form technically here) girlfriend 3 weeks before going to uni and within 1 week had met my current girlfriend who I've been with for 3 years now and am going to marry hopefully next year and I've never been happier. But it is so down to chance and random events and is one of those things that you can't really control that it's best to focus on other stuff when pulling yourself out of a hole.

Quote from: Christo on August 27, 2012, 02:01:01 pm

Others around me get everything so easily, let it be relationships or other stuff.
I am the only one with the burden of bad luck it seems, if there is reincarnation, I must've been a very bad mofo in my last life to get all this shit, haha.

PS: Actually, I got over the whole thing in like.. 2 hours of analyzing the situation, and deep thinking.
 It's just irritating when I look around, and everybody has it so easy

One of my exes once said this to me when she saw how things were going right in my life whilst she was still struggling with guys being dicks to her ect. She couldn't understand how I had it so easy. All I can say is it's probably my attitude. I tend to just say fuck it and move on. Once upon a time I used to be bullied a fair amount and there came a day when I made a concious decision to just ignore it and move on. I think that now influences how I deal with many things in life. It's not always the best approach but it does mean I avoid getting hung up on things to much and make an effort to make my life better. There's also the fact that this is life. I may have it easy now but there's nothing to say in a few years, decades, whatever, I'm not going to have a hellish time of it for whatever reason.

And that is why I like this:

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Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Anal Bleeding on August 30, 2012, 08:35:10 am

do you know the Hungarian porn actress Anita Blonde or Anita Dark?

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Christo on August 30, 2012, 09:45:12 am

Quote from: Anal Bleeding on August 30, 2012, 08:35:10 am

do you know the Hungarian porn actress Anita Blonde or Anita Dark?

And how does that help? haha  :mrgreen:

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Leshma on August 30, 2012, 12:35:25 pm

Well, he has a point.

Step 1: You become porn actor.
Step 2: You have sex with women like Anita Dark and are paid for it.
Step 3: You don't care will you be betrayed by a woman because you know it will happen (they need to make new movies and earn paycheck ffs)

:lol:

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Germanicus on August 31, 2012, 12:11:29 am

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBpkb0tEe7o this is very melancholic

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Siiem on August 31, 2012, 04:23:10 pm

Quote from: Vibe on August 27, 2012, 12:36:00 pm

there's always alcohol

This, what to do without it.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Shpritza on August 31, 2012, 05:49:17 pm

Less time in front of ur PC gaming, more weed and a lot of sex... try it and let me know how it works.   :wink:

and cheer up, life's a bitch.   8-)

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Kuyamzoleta on September 03, 2012, 08:07:26 am

Christo, I'm sorta running through the same thing right now and let me tell you: If she's ignorant of your feelings now than she'll be ignorant in the long road.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Berserkadin on September 03, 2012, 01:03:27 pm

Got a totally different situation, just classic depression. Either I go down to a state of melancholy and dont even want to leave my bed, or Im on medication and get totally numb, like a zombie, cant feel shit. Both are quite equally shit. And then I have these short periods when everything actually feels okey, when I can focus on the good things in life and just live life like a normal person. But of course It doesnt last for long, you get back down hellhole, and you know what you're missing out on. You try to do all these positive changes in your life but never get the fucking reward, you try but suddenly you're tapped out of all your energy and will to do anything. I dont believe other people have a walk in the park, everyone got their ups and downs, but its kinda not worth it when its mostly down down down and it feels you cant do shit about it. Earlier this year I trained regularly and hard, pushed myself to my limits and loved it, life felt kinda good, met new people, had fun, got in a good shape. Then bam, depression, body aching out of anxiety and you just want to lock yourself inside your room and starve to death. Add social phobia/anxiety and mix. I fucking hate my brains chemistry.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Siiem on September 03, 2012, 07:56:03 pm

I know how you feel. Like yesterday, I couldn't decide... hamburgers or pizza. And I ended up eating oatmeal. Man, depressing.
Then when I was about to shower last night I was all out of shampoo. But I was already wet in there so what to do, had to leave with wet, dirty hair.
Then it happened, shit got real. I wake up, walk towards the kitchen for some milk and I stub my toe. The pain, obliterating. I couldn't focus on anything, except the pain in that moment. The sadness, dark thoughts went through my mind. But that is life you know. Difficult choices all the time and never an easy answer.

This song helps me through every day.

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Felix on September 03, 2012, 11:00:41 pm

Lol apparently i was drunk yesterday ahaha

Title: Re: Deep Melancholy thread
Post by: Christo on September 05, 2012, 02:35:54 pm

Quote from: Siiem on September 03, 2012, 07:56:03 pm

This song helps me through every day.

This really made me crack up irl, hahaha.

Cheers.  :mrgreen: