Agreed. I'm guessing the whole irresponsible stoner who runs away from his problems angle was mostly propaganda. I'd say "bitchy rumour spreading" but it's the diplomacy forum and somewhat related to Strategus.
No wolf it's truth, unfortunately. This was the case when Rebache and Slezkh fell as well. In fact Wesley did show up for the ismirala fight which we were winning until he left half way though.
Whats most disappointing is how instead of taking responsibility for these losses like a good leader Wesley blames others. For example for Rabache it was Angellos fault for not reinforcing the fief. Slezkh was Arathians fault for not making himself available, the fall of Teutonic is everyone else s fault for not being active enough.
When one centralizes an organization around himself the responsibility for the outcome of that organization is on him.