There's so many long lances (2 couch only) but let's say you only have one so what? it takes less time then a xbow to reload to reuse it and you would still need to go away since to couch you need to get some speed first.
I've played a cavalryman on quite a number of chars, typically with a lance, and I've never, not a single time, used it couched. Why? It's basically useless. It works only on flat terrain vs perfectly unaware opponents. Since you don't know for sure they're perfectly unaware, since flat terrain is often hard to come by, and since it's easier to kill them with a lance thrust, which almost as deadly on a normally built char. Plus you can get people who try to evade with a thrust, while you can't maneuver AND couch the lance.
Your further comments indicate you don't understand lances and couching at all. But rather then trying to explain why you're clueless, let's focus on the important part:
Like I said I'm not whining because bar mace/long iron mace are getting nerfed I don't even use them that was just a point because some would probably mention it.
Yes, you are.
Have you noticed nobody really whines about the maul? Y/N? That's because a maul is counterable. Not trough blocking, but it is counterable. As is a couched lance. Now, the heirloomed barmaces are a wholly different thing.
For all I care, remove couching. Across all the cavalry characters I've built since I started playing crpg I've maybe used couching ten times. It's almost useless. When's the last time you saw someone using the great lance and not the heavy lance? Yeah. But sure, ask for it to be removed if it bothers you so. If you think it will however hurt cavalry, you're just stupid. On my alt I had 800 kills with a lance before I retired it, zero of which were scored by couching.
However, don't justify completely op weapons existing (aka barmace) by couched lances, it's not going to work, and is outrageously stupid.