Here is a quick summary of why people get pissed off at you or act crazy: Bolded text is important, non-bolded is just the explanation so feel free to skim.
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You are not a superstar like in Single Player. A very important tip from Aemaelius as follows shows that c-RPG is highly dependant on skill as crutching on level, arms and armour will only help you so much:
It needs to be underlined that cRPG is not primarily about levelling your character but your own skill.
I have been playing for almost a year of warband (some 850 hours) around 9 months of cRPG. I can hardly call myself average but that is because I'm a sucker at action games.
What people need to understand is that when Georges run around with his spamberge and plate, it is not the equipment doing the kills. We see lots of failed clones. The guy (strange as it may be) actually knows how to play. I use him becuase he is a good example. New players think that they can go to level 30 buy the expensive equipment and start chopping the enemy. That is not the case.
Jorm and Bifi from my clan make more kills at lvl 23 that I do at 30 (almost...). They know how to block 95% of the attacks... I get 65% on a good day. I make a decent faint every fourth time, they make it every other. I chamber by luck, they do it on purpose.
When you start to realize this, you will find it far more fun to level your own s(kill) and not your characters.
People have extremely long memories in this game, especially Clan Leaders and Administration. Rumors spread very quickly here. People are also very quick to screen capture, record, or report undesirable actions, and many Admin like to hang around in "invisible" spectator mode. Something to remember is that Essay Unbans are judged by your peers, not just the powers that be.
Reading the rules is a marvelous thing. If you read the rules for a server and use common sense then you will do fine. If you antagonize an Administrator or Moderator, expect consequences. Don't Poke The Bear. Here are the
Official Server Rules (http://forum.c-rpg.net/index.php/topic,2606.0.html), though note that non-officials may have differing rules.
Don't constantly kick teammates. Kicking teammates is a good way to say "hello" to familiar friends, to grief, or to warn a teammates that someone is about to sneak up behind him and say "Watch out!" Do however note that your kicks will not only stagger people (and thus interrupt what they are doing such as shooting or high fiving), but it will also damage them if they are lightly armored. Never kick a teammate off a ledge, this never ends well for you. Don't Kick Peasants.
Don't walk over or stand on ladders that are laying on the ground. The ladders that start the game on the ground can only be raised if someone walks next to it and holds down the "f" key for a short amount of time. If anything walks over the ladder while it is being raised, it interrupts this. Expect to be TKed rampantly on "accident" or banned if you do this constantly, as well as being the target of many creative insults.
If someone is doing something bad, report them in the proper section of the "Ban/Unban Requests" forum. Remember to post in the right forum. The Administrators are people too, thus they can make mistakes, and do not take kindly to unreasonable people who scream a lot. Remember to post your character name if making an unban request, and screen shots or videos if making a ban request. Do Not Be A Vigilante, Report Incidents; Do Not Take Them Into Your Own Hands.
Revenge against teammates is bad It can be impossible for Admin to sometimes figure out who started what, so if you revenge TK or Teamwound, expect to be banned, even if it was in "self defense."
People from all over the world play this game, so act accordingly. You are bound to insult someone accidentally at one point or another, or encounter a troll. Having a "thick skin" is a desirable attribute. Don't take things too seriously as this is a game, but do try and avoid escalating things to racial slurs and such for that gets people banned.
If you TK, say sorry. This is hardly a rule, but most players do expect you to apologize if you team kill. Please do not say "sorry for tk" unless you are in a safe spot. If you are in or near combat, wait for a safer moment or if need be at the start of the next round. If You Are Typing You Are A Free Kill. Also, do remember that if you stray near a melee fighter using an unbalanced weapon, or in front of an archer/crossbowman, you are tempting fate (you are setting yourself up to be TKed this way).
QML Can Be Traced.. Every QML is recorded, and people who abuse this can and will be traced by our dearest developers. Don't spam it like
Farmer_Nate because you want to throw a temper tantrum. People have been banned for this.
If you need to talk to an Admin/Mod privately, press the "i" key. Self explanatory, really. Do note that it is normal not to see what you typed after pressing Enter, as only those with Admin password can read it.
Pay Attention To Pink Text. This is an Admin talking, and 70% of the time it is important, so you best read it. The Admin Could Be Talking To You.