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Title: How do you guys cope through?....
Post by: Kuyamzoleta on July 06, 2012, 02:11:08 am: How do you guys cope through bad times or get past them? I'm going though a rough edge right now and if you guys could tell me any of your coping skills, I'd really appreciate it.

Writing is out of the question. It helps vent but it doesn't take it all away.
Drugs like weed and alcohol are also out of the question. I need to step away from that.
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Post by: Christo on July 06, 2012, 02:19:37 am: Hang out with friends. This could lead to parties, and alcohol, but it's a necessary evil you should get used to a bit. 8-)

Talk through your problems with a close friend who is trustworthy. If you have none of these, I don't believe you.
Everybody has at least one, be it a family member or a relative at least.

+nobody forces you to be an alcoholic, know the limits to just feel "alright", and nothing bad will happen.

Like I said, a necessary evil. Like fire, can be used well or badly. :wink:
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Post by: Weren on July 06, 2012, 02:42:03 am: I don't usually experience "bad times", but when I do get a bit depressed I usually try to focus on outdoor activities/sports and try to be as social as possible.
Gets my blood going and makes me feel better about myself. Music can help as well.
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Post by: Everkistus on July 06, 2012, 06:05:57 am: 1) Drink a bit and play warband
2) If you got time / money, go visit someplace you haven't been before that interesting for you
3) Do something that you find interesting
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Post by: Cumface on July 06, 2012, 06:09:59 am: I usually take some cocaine & booze, then I go outside and beat the shit out of some bundle of stickss. Always helps...
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Post by: Kuyamzoleta on July 06, 2012, 06:36:53 am: Thanks y'all. I know friends are always an option but I need to spend some time handling these problems by myself. If i can forget about it on my own noone, and I myself wouldn't have to care about it.
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Post by: Ramza on July 06, 2012, 06:48:23 am: Practice your hobbies and passion, eat a good meal, cry it out at night.

And watch cute animal videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FetshU808k8
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Post by: Anal Bleeding on July 06, 2012, 07:00:14 am: rub one out to some porn.
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Post by: Vibe on July 06, 2012, 08:05:42 am: cut wrists
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Post by: Gnjus on July 06, 2012, 08:09:29 am: Drink like Richard Burton & dance like John Travolta.
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Post by: Tibe on July 06, 2012, 08:27:57 am: Play moar Crpg. If u depressed...........u arent doing it enough. :D
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Post by: Arathian on July 06, 2012, 10:07:41 am: I commit an offense, land in jail and enjoy the company of such esteemed African Americans as the one in my avatar.
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Post by: [ptx] on July 06, 2012, 10:09:38 am: Had one just this last month, didn't really do much apart from falling into an apathy and gaming/sulking my way through it. Oh, well.
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Post by: Dalfador on July 07, 2012, 08:33:42 pm: Cook food.
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Post by: Niemand on July 08, 2012, 02:19:33 am: If its just a depressive mood... I try to read something, watch a movie and if its late enough I go to sleep early. Its easier to look at the problem if youre emotionally a bit more calm.

Also I try to talk to people I can talk seriously with. Be it online or Real Life does not matter. Hanging out with friends is good to. It also does not matter if you talk about your problems or not, as long as you dont talk to some trolling moron. Somebody who is on the same wavelength is perfect.

Next possibility: "Fuck the Pain away!" (Peaches). Find a chick. Fuck her brains out. Does not always help. Is not possible for everyone. Sometimes youre too young. Dont pay for it! :O

Oh and, a few words of advise:
- Dont drink alcohol. Burning your braincells is not worth it.
- Dont smoke when you are alone. It can lead to psychosis (I can tell... :( ) and dont smoke too much/often. I need only a little to feel "light" and I like it that way. If you got buddies with you you can talk about shit or play cards or stuff like that. You will most likely not start to think about your problems.

Most other things are already said by people that are not obviously moroning around. ;)

Good Luck!
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Post by: Pollux on July 08, 2012, 04:17:57 am: I make dating profiles with pictures of my CRPG character and message other members about the length of my masterwork sword.
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Post by: WITCHCRAFT on July 09, 2012, 07:51:45 am: Do something different. Changing things up can make you feel better, even if you don't have the best time of your life. Go out somewhere you were thinking of visiting, try a new hobby, read that book you've been putting off forever.

What works for me personally is getting outdoors and being active. No matter how grumpy or down I am to start with, a good hours-long bike ride or an all day hike by myself is like pressing the reset button on my mood. There is something very satisfying about lying down to rest at the end of the day after traveling so far by your own flesh and will.
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Post by: Anal Bleeding on July 18, 2012, 07:52:34 pm: watch Conan O'brien first ten minutes of show.
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Post by: Bjord on July 18, 2012, 08:04:56 pm: Quote from: [ptx] on July 06, 2012, 10:09:38 am
Had one just this last month, didn't really do much apart from falling into an apathy and gaming/sulking my way through it. Oh, well.

Why am I not surprised. 8-)
Always imagined you to have a pretty boring life.
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Post by: [ptx] on July 18, 2012, 08:10:49 pm: Gosh, Bjord, still desperate to get at me? :lol:
Get back to flipping burgers, you tool.
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Post by: Bjord on July 18, 2012, 08:32:12 pm: It's sad if you actually think people care enough to make you feel bad, I was just voicing an opinion(which was confirmed by your pitiful post) and you start insulting me. :wink:

It's not like your posts are a source of happiness. Usually whenever you post it's something bitter and sarcastic, like you're putting people down to compensate for your boring, uneventful and grey life.

I only feel sorry for you, ptx.
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Post by: [ptx] on July 18, 2012, 08:39:51 pm: Keep it up, Bjord, someone might actually get the idea that you are not a petty loser.
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Post by: Tagora on July 20, 2012, 06:59:42 am: you see,

what's wrong with sulking,?
tis good in all weather.
and compliments many wines...
many poets...
many women.
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Post by: Artyem on July 20, 2012, 09:36:11 pm: You need to change your outlook on life, assuming it's just depression. I used to have "depression" and they wanted to put me on pills for it but I eventually managed to change my outlook on things. No downside lacks an upside, only focus on the good things in life. But do not ignore the fact that there are negative factors in life, because that's basically just bottling up all of the nasty shit and letting it pool up for later, which can really bite you on the ass when you least need it. Don't worry about the past, and don't spend all of your time thinking about the future, instead focus on your life now, in the current time.

That's about all I can offer as advice, good luck.
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Post by: [ptx] on July 20, 2012, 11:45:36 pm: Okay, am currently in the process of getting past a MAJOR fuck-up in my life. As to my first post here - what i did was the wrong thing to do. Nothing gets you down as much as waiting for things to get better by themselves (or waiting in general). The solution is to accept the WORST possible outcome and start working up from there. Do not pity yourself, do not seek to place blame, just look for ways to actively improve your situation. This is helping me tremendously.
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 20, 2012, 11:46:53 pm: Quote from: [ptx] on July 20, 2012, 11:45:36 pm
Okay, am currently in the process of getting past a MAJOR fuck-up in my life. As to my first post here - what i did was the wrong thing to do. Nothing gets you down as much as waiting for things to get better by themselves (or waiting in general). The solution is to accept the WORST possible outcome and start working up from there. Do not pity yourself, do not seek to place blame, just look for ways to actively improve your situation. This is helping me tremendously.

Or you could drink your way out of your problems (drugs as well) or eat yourself out of em (food).
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Post by: [ptx] on July 20, 2012, 11:50:18 pm: That doesn't solve them, and when you wake up next morning with a hangover, you're even worse off.
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 20, 2012, 11:54:08 pm: Quote from: [ptx] on July 20, 2012, 11:50:18 pm
That doesn't solve them, and when you wake up next morning with a hangover, you're even worse off.

It's a temporarily solution and puts your mind elsewhere for the time being. But not a perma solution no.

Nobody said life's easy though. Either you quit now or you keep going and hope it's getting better by itself or make it yourself (which seems to be like what you're doing).
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Post by: Teeth on July 21, 2012, 12:52:39 am: Am I the only one breezing through life? I can't really recall any hard times where I felt bad.
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Post by: Leshma on July 21, 2012, 12:59:19 am: Life isn't easy. I've been through a lot of shit for my age, most of them caused myself.

Wanted to give up couple of times but not anymore. Living crappy life is better than nothing.

And no matter how bad your situation may seem there are always good things in life to make up for the bad ones, you just have to look for them.

But to be honest, I've never been put to real misery test and that is losing someone you truly love. I'm not sure would I be able to overcome that without creating serious mayhem in society.
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Post by: [ptx] on July 21, 2012, 02:13:07 am: Quote from: SgtTeeh on July 21, 2012, 12:52:39 am
Am I the only one breezing through life? I can't really recall any hard times where I felt bad.
And then it hits you out of the blue when you least expect it. That's how it happens.
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Post by: Murmillus_Prime on July 21, 2012, 02:16:32 am: Pot, pot and pot, oh and fresh air, and more pot and some munchies. Can't go wrong... Unless you.. nvm.
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Post by: Adamar on July 21, 2012, 02:21:12 am: Embrace negativeness, turn it into self discipline and use it to achieve your aims. When you feel like you're starting to feel sorry for yourself just think of what you could be doing instead.

The bad part is that you could turn into a grinding junkie, and that's likely to breed frustration.
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Post by: HardRice on July 21, 2012, 02:24:50 am: I've just learned after years of shit from everything and everyone around me, to not give a fuck. IE, air condition not working when it's 90 outside? whatever, open the window. Hurt your leg? walk it off. Not the best route for everyone, it's gotten me through some nasty stuff.
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 21, 2012, 02:37:00 am: Solution to all your problems:

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Post by: Adamar on July 21, 2012, 02:44:12 am: The dead body of an anime chick wont solve everything.
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Post by: Murmillus_Prime on July 21, 2012, 02:46:18 am: Quote from: CountBerenger on July 21, 2012, 02:37:00 am
Solution to all your problems:

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Berenger dressed up as an emo girl with pink hair.
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 21, 2012, 02:46:31 am: Quote from: Adamar on July 21, 2012, 02:44:12 am
The dead body of an anime chick wont solve everything.

Change anime chick to (you) not literally you but whoever got the problems.
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Post by: Bjord on July 21, 2012, 02:48:46 am: Hahahaha, owned Berenger.

Anyway.. Time for me to make a proper reply to OP:

Occupy your mind, do some manual labour i.e clean the house/apartment, help parents with shit like cutting grass, watering plants.

In fact, caring for a plant is a nice way to cheer oneself up. As you see the plant grow and grow, you will find that life is beautiful and everything flows together in an endless circle. There are times you feel bad, and times you feel great!

Pretty simple words, forgive my lack of eloquence. But still, I wish the best.
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Post by: Adamar on July 21, 2012, 03:11:18 am: Quote from: Bjord on July 21, 2012, 02:48:46 am
Hahahaha, owned Berenger.

Anyway.. Time for me to make a proper reply to OP:

Occupy your mind, do some manual labour i.e clean the house/apartment, help parents with shit like cutting grass, watering plants.

In fact, caring for a plant is a nice way to cheer oneself up. As you see the plant grow and grow, you will find that life is beautiful and everything flows together in an endless circle. There are times you feel bad, and times you feel great!

Pretty simple words, forgive my lack of eloquence. But still, I wish the best.

:shock: :) :D :lol:
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 21, 2012, 03:14:56 am: I want a bonsai tree :/
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Post by: Jarlek on July 21, 2012, 04:18:26 am: I go berserk with a chainsaw.

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Nothing wrong with some manual labour!
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Post by: Murmillus_Prime on July 21, 2012, 02:06:25 pm: Bjord has a heart.

Anyway, grow some plants, and give them to me in 3 months. Make both of us feel better.
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Post by: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 01:49:35 am: Murmy... those plants need around 4 month, sometimes 5 or 6. 2 to 4 to grow big and the rest for the bloom-state.
Okay, maybe not in the southern, warm parts of europe...

Quote from: CountBerenger on July 21, 2012, 02:37:00 am
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She cute. I can haz her? Dead or alive doesnt matter that much right now...
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Post by: Murmillus_Prime on July 22, 2012, 02:34:44 am: Quote from: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 01:49:35 am
Murmy... those plants need around 4 month, sometimes 5 or 6. 2 to 4 to grow big and the rest for the bloom-state.
Okay, maybe not in the southern, warm parts of europe...
She cute. I can haz her? Dead or alive doesnt matter that much right now...

Who said I was talking about outside?

No harm in an indoor garden! Also doubles up as heating in winter, dual purpose!
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Post by: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 08:24:28 am: I wasnt talking about outside, either. :D

In my room I got ~13°C in winter, If I am to lazy to fire the chimney (its an old farm house). Dont know what I would do without my PC here. :D
But a growing-lamp did not really raise the temperature. Didnt give much harvest. But what do I care, it was for myself. And I dont need much (and dont want to need much). I stopped the project, I need to get clear in my head. Find my goal in life. And while doing that I cant afford the money/time to care about some plants or smoke too much.

TL;DR: No heating in winter. only small plants. :(
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Post by: Bobthehero on July 22, 2012, 08:26:57 am: Buy a sword, hit stuff.
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 22, 2012, 08:46:14 am: Get out and start punching walls ( :wink: )
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Post by: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 08:49:02 am: Get overgrade Patriotic for my Country, show its flag in my signature and go out and kick peoples asses that look like terrorists/people that dont belong here.

... Oh wait, naw I am not american or german enough for that. :O

Edit: Sorry. dunno what rode me again here. I seem to be in a too good mood (sixtuble o! beat that!) for this kind of hatespeech... :(
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Post by: Murmillus_Prime on July 22, 2012, 02:30:06 pm: Quote from: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 08:24:28 am
I wasnt talking about outside, either. :D

In my room I got ~13°C in winter, If I am to lazy to fire the chimney (its an old farm house). Dont know what I would do without my PC here. :D
But a growing-lamp did not really raise the temperature. Didnt give much harvest. But what do I care, it was for myself. And I dont need much (and dont want to need much). I stopped the project, I need to get clear in my head. Find my goal in life. And while doing that I cant afford the money/time to care about some plants or smoke too much.

TL;DR: No heating in winter. only small plants. :(

3-4 Weeks veg, switch to 12/12. 8-10 weeks flower, that's 3 - 3.2 months for a cycle.

Yes there's no need to be greedy and make a commercial Chinese scale grow, I wasn't talking about monsters. :)
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Post by: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 05:23:10 pm: I wasnt talking about monsters, either. But it simply took longer before I was able to get them to 12/12. ;)
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Post by: HardRice on July 22, 2012, 06:14:14 pm: Quote from: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 08:49:02 am
Get overgrade Patriotic for my Country, show its flag in my signature and go out and kick peoples asses that look like terrorists/people that dont belong here.

... Oh wait, naw I am not american or german enough for that. :O

Edit: Sorry. dunno what rode me again here. I seem to be in a too good mood (sixtuble o! beat that!) for this kind of hatespeech... :(

Fucking serious man? Some anti usa shit in a thread asking for help?

Not the thread to do that in.
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Post by: LordBerenger on July 22, 2012, 06:17:17 pm: Natzees gonna natzee
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Post by: Murmillus_Prime on July 22, 2012, 08:15:52 pm: Quote from: Niemand on July 22, 2012, 05:23:10 pm
I wasnt talking about monsters, either. But it simply took longer before I was able to get them to 12/12. ;)

Maybe you were growing sativa dominant strains. Grow indica dominant strains if you want faster maturation!
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Post by: Bjord on July 22, 2012, 09:57:56 pm: Murmi, if I'm ever in UK share some of your jah with me kay?

Anyway, if you want to feel really good; find someone to love. Love heals every wound.
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Post by: Kuyamzoleta on July 22, 2012, 10:23:29 pm: Thanks a bunch for the support guys :] I've been listening to all the advice so far and it's helped out a ton. I've still got skeletons in the closet but I can always make room for more haha.

I feel like I've been recovering from that hole I was in earlier, and I think ima come back to the game in less than a month or so.
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Post by: Adamar on July 23, 2012, 12:19:28 am: Quote from: Bjord on July 22, 2012, 09:57:56 pm
Murmi, if I'm ever in UK share some of your jah with me kay?

Anyway, if you want to feel really good; find someone to love. Love heals every wound.

It depends on the kind of love...
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Post by: Niemand on July 23, 2012, 01:23:04 am: Quote from: Murmillus_Prime on July 22, 2012, 08:15:52 pm
Maybe you were growing sativa dominant strains. Grow indica dominant strains if you want faster maturation!
Now that I think about it... you really could be right there. At least the first round. But I got a huge amount then... and started in Spring of that year. Last time I got nearly nothing, because I grew them over winter. Its simply been too cold.

Quote from: Bjord on July 22, 2012, 09:57:56 pm
Anyway, if you want to feel really good; find someone to love. Love heals every wound.
Quote from: Adamar on July 23, 2012, 12:19:28 am
It depends on the kind of love...
Both true. But when you feel loved and got a girl (or guy, depends on your gender and/or direction) you usually kinda have more power. You have more faith in yourself. Also, you have somebody to talk to when you feel down. Usually the opinion of somebody else is able to help you out.
Oh and dont forget the Taka-Taka. Taka-Taka is important. For everyman. :D
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Post by: Anal Bleeding on July 23, 2012, 05:31:46 am: what is taka-taka
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Post by: Christo on July 23, 2012, 06:39:21 am: Quote from: Anal Bleeding on July 23, 2012, 05:31:46 am
what is taka-taka

Baby don't hurt me..

Is that some weird slang for Sexual Intercourse?
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Post by: [ptx] on July 23, 2012, 08:36:17 am: No, it's the german alternative.
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Post by: Niemand on July 23, 2012, 09:51:46 am: In fact I learned that one when I was in Australia... :D

but yah.
Quote from: Christo on July 23, 2012, 06:39:21 am
Is that some weird slang for Sexual Intercourse?
It is.
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Post by: Niemand on July 29, 2012, 07:08:54 pm: Quote from: Kuyamzoleta on July 06, 2012, 02:11:08 am
How do you guys cope through bad times or get past them?
I bid big money for Bannerslots on the cRPG-Auctions. :D
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Post by: Overdriven on July 29, 2012, 07:17:31 pm: Supposedly the happiest and most satisfied people are those who work outside in some form of manual labour. It keeps you fit (one of the most important things for health in body and mind), you are out in the elements (nature woot) and get the sunshine as well as learn to love the bad weather.

For the next 3 months I'm working doing basic garden maintenance with another guy. Got to say I'm already loving it. Very hard work but leaves you pretty satisfied.

Other than that I went mountain biking, just 15 miles, today for the first time in years as I've been at uni/working sundays for the past 3 years so haven't gotten the opportunity. I was feeling pretty down in the morning but after a couple of miles I felt much happier and was really enjoying myself.

Sometimes it can be hard to push yourself to get active but it really really does help. Then when you come home tired (in a good way) and hungry you can eat and computer game for the rest of your free time. Makes a good balance really.
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Post by: Tigero on July 29, 2012, 09:53:13 pm: Chilly, misty summer evening, running naked on huge grass field and then jumping into a lake. Damn all social shit feels dumb after that, life at its best. :twisted: