Sounds like the only appropriate response is "Tough shit".
I read your complaint as something akin to:
I don't have a basketball team, don't think I'll ever bother with one, but I'm going to enter a tournament anyways. Everyone should have a pick-up team of pubbies just to keep things fair.....
But it's the opposite?? I haven't gotten into Strategus yet but that would be the tournament and the servers would be pubs..?
A big reason I also brought this entire topic up is because, imo, the multiplier is not a good way to gain xp... Its almost a lottery with the team switching and doesn't really cause cohesian of a team (One guy might have 5x while other has 1x)... Gaining money can come to a crawl when losing 4-0 several games in a row.. I'm still confused if balance is a goal of the game... The multiplier
depends on one team being stacked more than the other to be effective... The funnest battles are those that are close by <5 people, not a crushing defeat of 20 people still alive...
Everyone might as well copy the banner of the clans server and join in order to get on the stacked team... Which I do see a good amount of actually.
Try countering with some tactics. Pick a banner, take the initiative, be polite and pray for some understanding.
GL
^ That's truly all one can do I guess.. lol