Here is a quick summary of why people get pissed off at you or act crazy: Bolded text is important, non-bolded is just the explanation so feel free to skim.
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You are not a superstar like in Single Player. A very important tip from Aemaelius as follows shows that cRPG is highly dependent on skill as crutching on level, arms and armor will only help you so much:
It needs to be underlined that cRPG is not primarily about leveling your character but your own skill.
I have been playing for almost a year of Warband (some 850 hours) around 9 months of cRPG. I can hardly call myself average but that is because I'm a sucker at action games.
What people need to understand is that when Georges run around with his spamberge and plate, it is not the equipment doing the kills. We see lots of failed clones. The guy (strange as it may be) actually knows how to play. I use him because he is a good example. New players think that they can go to level 30 buy the expensive equipment and start chopping the enemy. That is not the case.
Jorm and Bifi from my clan make more kills at lvl 23 that I do at 30 (almost...). They know how to block 95% of the attacks... I get 65% on a good day. I make a decent faint every fourth time, they make it every other. I chamber by luck, they do it on purpose.
When you start to realize this, you will find it far more fun to level your own s(kill) and not your characters.
Don't be an idiot. People have extremely long memories in this game, especially Clan Leaders and Administration. Rumors spread very quickly here. People are also very quick to screen capture, record, or report undesirable actions, and many Admin like to hang around in 'invisible' spectator mode. Something to remember is that Essay Unbans are judged by your peers, not just the powers that be.
Reading the rules is a marvelous thing. If you read the rules for a server and use common sense then you will do fine. If you antagonize an Administrator or Moderator, expect consequences. Don't Poke The Bear. Here are the
Official Server Rules (http://forum.c-rpg.net/index.php/topic,2606.0.html), though note that non-officials may have differing rules. For example, the HRE server disallows spawning without body armor.
Don't constantly kick teammates. Kicking teammates is a good way to say "hello" to familiar friends, to grief, or to warn a teammates that someone is about to sneak up behind him and say "Watch out!" Do however note that your kicks will not only stagger people (and thus interrupt what they are doing, such as shooting, reloading or high fiving), but it will also damage them if they are lightly armored. Never kick a teammate off a ledge, this never ends well for you. Don't Kick Peasants Or Reloading Crossbowmen. Everything stated here also applies to nudges.
Don't walk over or stand on ladders that are laying on the ground. Don't stand atop gate winches. The ladders that start the game on the ground can only be raised if someone walks next to it and holds down the 「f」 key for a short amount of time. If anything walks over the ladder while it is being raised, it interrupts this. Expect to be TKed rampantly on "accident" or banned if you do this constantly, as well as being the target of many creative insults. However, preventing attackers from raising a ladder as a defender this way is an accepted tactic. However, you are not allowed to stand on top of gate winches to prevent their opening. The gate which rule applies to attackers and defenders.
Don't open gates as a defender, or disrupt gate opening as an attacker. Losing the gate in Siege is a tragic event for the defending team. Under no circumstances open the gate as a defender. That teammates are trapped outside or allied cavalry players want to charge out of the castle are no accepted excuses. Attackers will get in 99% of the time and your team won't be happy about it. On DTV maps with gates, only open them if your team is directly behind the gate, ready and willing to fight the incoming bots. People have been and are still being banned for rule-violating gate opening regularly. As an attacker, don't walk in between the person who opens the gate and the gate winch. This resets the progress bar from holding down the 「f」 key and you lose valuable time.
Don't destroy DTV Equipment Boxes and other friendly siege equipment. The reason weapon racks have an HP bar is Strategus. They are not meant to be destroyed in DTV. People have been kicked or banned for that.
If someone is doing something bad, report them in the proper section of the Ban/Unban Requests (http://forum.melee.org/banunban-requests/)
forum. Remember to post in the right forum. Do Not Spam In The Ban/Unban Section (http://forum.melee.org/eu-%28official%29/ban-section-rules-no-spam/), Or Your Forum Account Will Get Muted. The Administrators are people too, thus they can make mistakes, and do not take kindly to unreasonable people who scream a lot. Remember to follow the Official Ban Request Form (http://forum.melee.org/eu-%28official%29/ban-request-requirements-read-this-first!/msg828824/#msg828824), or your request may be ignored altogether. Do Not Be A Vigilante, Report Incidents; Do Not Take Them Into Your Own Hands.
Revenge against teammates is bad. It can be impossible for Admin to sometimes figure out who started what, so if you revenge TK or Teamwound, expect to be banned, even if it was in "self defense".
If you need to talk to an Admin/Mod privately, press the 「i」 key. Self explanatory, really. Do note that it is normal not to see what you typed after pressing 「enter」, as only those with Admin password can read it.
People from all over the world play this game, so act accordingly. You are bound to insult someone accidentally at one point or another, or encounter a troll. Having a "thick skin" is a desirable attribute. Don't take things too seriously as this is a game, but do try and avoid escalating things to racial slurs and such for that gets people banned.
If you TK, say sorry. This is hardly a rule, but most players do expect you to apologize if you team kill. Please do not say "sorry for tk" unless you are in a safe spot. If you are in or near combat, wait for a safer moment or if need be at the start of the next round. If You Are Typing You Are A Free Kill. Also, do remember that if you stray near a melee fighter using an unbalanced weapon, or in front of an archer/crossbowman, you are tempting fate (you are setting yourself up to be TKed this way).
Pay Attention To Dark Red Text. This is an Admin talking, and 70% of the time it is important, so you best read it. The Admin Could Be Talking To You.