Same thing about only the enemies of mercs disagreeing...
I swear I am not making this post because of this statement.
I do agree that number 1 and 3 are glitches.
Surely there is some sort of log that will show who transferred all the equipment? I agree with Diggles' suggestion though, an accept or decline option would fix this problem.
Number 2 is more of a strategy though you are saying they don't recieve any punishment because their spawn is captured? Or is there some other bug surrounding this?
Number 1 is a huge bug and when paired in combination with number 2 is even more infuriating. I have noticed that you can attack people from within a village but you can not join a village after attacking someone. Therefore you just have to implement an auto-kick from the fief when you attack someone I suppose which shouldn't be too difficult of a fix I think.